The other day I heard someone say: ” You use cheats (notes, next to the phone) to help you remember what questions you could ask?” and I noticed that for me the word ‘cheats’ caused an uncomfortable feeling. Well, I may be only one of few who reacts to that word.
So, I thought about what other word could be used that says the same in a way that only has positive feelings as a result.
This reminded me of when I was learning to replace a lot of words in my everyday language with more positive feeling , empowering words.
Here are a few examples:
|Have to||Choose to|
|Can’t afford||Choose to budget|
|It is cold||It is not that warm|
|Stranger||A friend I haven’t met yet|
|Don’t||Do this instead|
The important part of choosing different words is that they feel better and are more empowering to ourselves and others.
We do have a choice and that can be reflected in the words we use.
The more we use positive words the more we attract positive experiences.
When we are new at something it is like being in “baby shoes”.
The more we do something and it works the more our confidence grows.
Just like a baby seems to strive on the encouraging word of the parents/adults around when it is taking it’s first steps, we strive on encouragement as adults from others.
Hearing “well done, good job , I like the way you did/said… Good on you for starting, giving it a go, you are so clever ” can make all the difference especially when we are embarking on doing something new. We can say those things to ourselves.
It is also important what we think about our own efforts. If we think poorly of what we did it is highly unlikely that others think otherwise. Even if they would and/or say something positive about our work, we would not be able to let it in and believe it.