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It is All done for Us

It's all done for meIt is all done ‘for us’!

What do you mean?

Have you ever heard people say ‘Why did you do this ‘to me’?’

Recently I learned from Panache Desai (link below) that instead of thinking that they have ‘done it to me’ I could look at it from a different perspective as in that ‘they have ‘done it for me’.

When we move from a victim consciousness where we believe that things are ‘done to us’ to a creator consciousness, our awareness changes to that it is ‘done for us’.

Everything that happens can be used as a spring-board for greater awareness. Continue reading It is All done for Us

Making Changes and the Limbic Lag

What is the Limbic Lag?

It is what happens when we want to do something and something is holding back.

BrainThe  two parts of our brain that this post will address are the lymbic system and the neo-cortex

The Limbic system is fully developed at birth, it tags experiences with emotions. When it is bad it will avoid it, if it is good it wants more. It sustains life and it adjusts its settings to what is safe.

It can be (re-)programmed through experience but not through knowledge, acceptance, being listened to, being loved. Continue reading Making Changes and the Limbic Lag

Imagine if we would choose to Believe

Imagine LoveIn the book “The Storm before the Calm” by Neale Donald Walsch is a chapter with the Heading “Can you believe What we could believe, if we simply chose to?”

Contemplating this chapter I wrote this in my journal:

“I have believed what the chapter talks about for a long time.

Have I really believed it? Continue reading Imagine if we would choose to Believe

Another Step towards Emotional Well Being


Last week I finished another 8 week Resolve Course lead by 2 Counselors (who had to have at least 400 client sessions before training for this course) .

For the last session we had to stand in front of the group and share our Hero Story, which is about where we come from and how the course has brought healing to our life. Continue reading Another Step towards Emotional Well Being

Headaches Migraines and Affirmations

Migraine AuraMost people and even children have experienced headaches or even migraines.

What helps you when your head is aching?

There are lots of methods and which one we choose is probably right for us.

Do you think that what you believe is powerful?

Watch the Video below how a hospital in Beijing uses no medicines.

This post is about how headaches relate to attitudes.

Understanding the cause can be effective with clearing it.

Check list of Affirmations to use at the bottom of the post.

According to Annette Noontil (The Body is the Barometer of the Soul)

The attitudes related to headaches and migraines are as follows:

Headaches

Front of head, pressure

Holding on to old limitations and not seeing good in anything.

Back of head

Pressurizing yourself through impatience that you have not done enough

Migraines

Nervous headaches Back of head

Your communication to yourself that you are the one who needs to be accepted is not happening. Tell yourself you accept yourself no matter what has happened to you.

Nervous headaches front of head

Not communicating with your inner being to know yourself.

Not believing you can stand up for yourself and say what you want.

Letting others tell you what to do and not communicating to them that you dislike being told what to do.

I turned these into

Affirmations:

  • I feel more and more free to tell others that I dislike to be told what to do.
  • I am patient with myself and trust that I have done enough.
  • I let go of limitations and see the good in things.
  • I see myself and everyone as equal.
  • I allow myself to be the love that I am. I am at peace with myself.
  • More and more am I accepting myself no matter what happens to me.
  • More and more am I communicating with my Inner being to know myself.
  • I love the thought of feeling courageous enough to stand up for myself and say what I want.
  • I love the thought of feeling free to tell other that I dislike being told what to do.
  • I love the thought of standing up for myself and say what I want.
  • I am patient with myself and trust that I have done enough.
  • More and more am I letting go of limitations .
  • More and more am I seeing the positive aspects in everyone and everything.
  • More and more am I allowing myself to be the love that I am.
  • I love the thought of being at peace with myself.
  • I accept myself and say what I want.

Thoughts and [intlink id=”75″ type=”page” target=”_blank”]Affirmations[/intlink] create Feelings.

Gregg Braden

“When we have a feeling in our hearts we are creating electrical and magnetic waves inside of our bodies that extend beyond our bodies into the world around us.”

Healing in less the 3 min in a medicine-less Beijing Hospital

Other natural methods:

Sound -Endorphin Release/Headache Relief – Delta/Theta/Gamma Brainwave Synchronization Meditation

(there is free download of the audio file)

Accupressure

Herbs

Magnesium

EFT

and many more…

Photo Credit: Migraine Aura on Wikipedia

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Accepting and welcoming all of ourselves

Transactional analysis

We have at times different aspects of personality within ourselves.

According to Transactional Analysis(TA) we have an adult, child and critical/loving parent.

Debbie Ford in the books The Dark Side of the Light Chasers and The Shadow Effect writes about the different parts of ourselves and how to embrace and accept them all.

 

In the last few weeks I have become aware of my feelings of social ‘inaptness’.

My tendency is towards being a recluse, choosing solitude over social-get-together.

A friend invited me to her birthday party. She knows me, so she probably didn’t really expected me to turn up.

On the morning of her party I did some writing about my reluctance to go and I allowed the part of me that was anxious and uncomfortable to really express itself and gave myself permission not to go.

After finishing my conversation with myself on paper, I thought that I would not go. To my surprise a little while later I found myself thinking about preparing for the trip to her place. I actually did feel like going. And I did and had a good time.

Had I listened to my impatient self only and ‘pushed’ myself to go, I would have taken all that anxiety and uncomfortable feeling with me and I am sure it would have affected the whole experience and those around me. I know, because I did it in the past.

My Impatient Self has a valuable contribution to make.

My impatient self:

  • Knows what I am capable off and want me to get on with it
  • Is solution orientated and sees what could be possible
  • Wants the best for me
  • Remembers everything I have learned that can be helpful to move on

It knows:

  • That I am not my scared, ashamed little girl
  • That I am an adult now
  • That I am a spiritual being connected to infinite wisdom love and energy
  • That my apparent limitations are just my present perception
  • That I can change my perception

it knows that it is possible to move:

  • Out of suffering
  • Past the struggle
  • To better times
  • To feeling achievement
  • To do better

I am grateful to have my impatient self and do welcome its contribution.

I also have learned, that to constructively, effectively and efficiently move forward, I need to ‘hear’, accept, embrace and include all parts of me, otherwise there will be an undercurrent of unsettledness, disgruntledness, worry and anxiety, which will make moving feel like moving through mud. I may move, but not as easily and fast as I could.

So, if I take the time and really listen to and take all parts into consideration, until they feel settled, then that time spent will pay off, when I am ready to move, with the ease of movement, the speed and effectiveness and even enjoyment.

In meetings with people, where decisions are to be made that involves everyone, like families, it is also important, that everyone is heard and their concerns are taken into considerations.

It is sort of the same when we make individual decisions.

Debbie Ford

Marianne Williamson

Deepak Chopra

The Shadow Effect

More on Transactional Analysis

A Joke : “The sooner you fall behind, the more time you’ll have to catch up”

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Time for Self Reflection

Beach painting on wall with window“Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action.” Peter F. Drucker

“By three methods we may learn wisdom: first, by reflection, which is noblest; second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.” Confucius

How much time do you get/take to be by yourself to reflect?
Maybe we don’t all need the same amount of time to spend alone to tune in, to reconnect? Do we get/take enough time and what do we do with it when we have it?

“Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away.” Barbara De Angelis

Some of us may have been conditioned to see self reflection as ‘navel gazing’.
I believe that taking time out and taking ‘stock’ can increase our effectiveness and contribute to well being success and abundance and make us more efficient in using our time.

Here are some questions we could ask ourselves:

* What is true for me?
~ What do I like?
~ What do I want?
~ How do I define myself?

* What do I believe about myself?
~ What did I learn from things that didn’t work out as planned?
~ How can I derive something positive from my mistakes/failures?
~ What do I want to focus on?

* What are my [intlink id=”435″ type=”post” target=”_blank” anchor=”Post on Positive Aspects”]positive aspects[/intlink]?
~ What do I appreciate about myself?
~ What are my achievements?
~ How far did I come in the last week, month, year?

* How far do I want to ‘look’ into the future, plan, set goals?
~ Do I want to set goals?
~ What are my fears around setting goals?

* What is on my plate, in the fridge in the freezer?
~ Do I need more or less on my plate?
~ If I went at my own pace what would I do/not do?

* What am I good at?
~ Do I want to get better at what I am not good at?
~ Could I delegate what I am not good at?
~ What would my day look like at the end of the day if I felt good about it?

* How do I feel?
~ Where do those feelings come from?
~ What were my thoughts before I had those feelings?
~ What past/childhood experiences may be related to those feelings?

* Do I allow myself to trust the process?
~ Do I believe it is all unfolding perfectly?
~ Even if I don’t answer any of those questions?

How to feel good about ourselves by Abraham-Hicks

 

Journaling is a great way to reflect. Click here for more about Journaling on Oprah.com

What is your favourite way to spend time in self reflection?
Do you do it on a regular daily basis?

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Taking time out for Well Being

Beach with Coromandel in the distanceIn this busy lifestyle of modern civilisation a lot of people don’t seem to find the time
to take time out for their well being and to restore positivity.
We are always doing the best we can at any given time.
We don’t get up in the morning and say “I am going to be deliberately lazy today and sabotage myself.”

If we are feeling a lack of energy it is usually a sign that we need to take care of ourselves and re-align.
Even if it means doing nothing.

Elizabeth Gilbert, Author of “Eat, Pray and Love” found out about the ‘art of doing nothing’ from Italians.
Apparently they practice that art on a daily basis (i.e. go home for lunch and make love).

An Article about ‘The Art of doing Nothing has some great tips.

We all need time out to recharge our batteries and not just at night when we are sleeping.

How many people allow themselves to have that time out?

There is the ‘too busy’, ‘got to get things done’, etc. Attitude,
which keeps most of us slugging away at it.

Why? Because we are afraid that if we don’t, things will fall apart.
A lot of times it is the people who fall apart, they get sick, have accidents, divorces, heart attacks etc.

Trusting the process is usually not something we learn at school.

Yet, if we would trust the process and listen to our bodies, our energy levels and
take the time out at the first inkling, our even better on a daily basis, we would function so much better.

Even if it is only 10 to 15 minutes.
It is all unfolding perfectly.

Try it now with this very relaxing video taking you into nature(by jankovarik).
Best watched on Full screen (click on the bottom right hand corner)


I like Wellness Days.
I used to let my kids stay home for Wellness days, rather than have them home sick.
Amy Wong wrote an post on Wellness days

Here is a quote I got in my email:
“Some things you’re not letting happen right now because the timing isn’t perfect for you. Some you’re not letting happen because you are very aware of where you are. But all things, as they are happening, are happening in perfect order. And if you will relax and begin saying, “Everything in its perfect time. Everything is unfolding. And I’m enjoying where I am now, in relationship to where I’m going. Content where I am, and eager for more,” that is the perfect vibrational stance. “Abraham-Hicks

It is all unfolding perfectly.

What is your way of taking time out?
How do you look after your well being?
What do you do to restore your positivity?

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