Feeling compassion for ourselves when we are experiencing difficult emotion may not be easy for everyone.
A lot of people attempt to avoid and deny their feelings of anxiety, anger or shame especially since these feelings seem ‘irrational’ at the time.
In the book ‘Self-Compassion’ by Kristin Neff, PH.D. is a chapter called ‘Emotional Resilience’.
Wouldn’t it be nice if our parents and other caregivers would have been able to model and teach us how to be emotionally resilient?
The suggestion in this chapter is ‘to mindfully relate to our negative emotions by becoming aware how they feel in our body’ .
If we try to bury or avoid the feelings we don’t like they will continue.
K. Neff shares a research in which people were told not to think of white bear and then ring a bell if they did. The result was that “Bells pealed forth like it was Christmas time.” Continue reading Self Compassion A healthy way to deal with our feelings